Okay, let's say you are new to an area and join a Internet group of mommies who live in the surrounding towns. There is a get-together put on by the homeschooling moderator so you sign up, take a shower, make pumpkin bread, get juice cups organized, print out directions and spend 30 minutes in the car to knock on the door. You expect to meet other homeschooling mothers and possibly find some friends for your children.
What you find is someone who does "school" with her preschooler and sends her oldest to public school and a mom who is considering homeschooling because she is unsatisfied with her 5 year old's preschool. I spent most of the visit keeping Timmy from eating the decorations and the other part picking up the flood of toys that seemed to wash through the house.
I know there are all kinds of homeschoolers: unschoolers, school-at-home moms, classical types, traditionalists, and likely another half dozen variants. But they school their children at HOME, not send them to public school and claim to be a homeschooling expert. I'll just say that I won't find my bosom buddy through this venue.
Luckily I have spent part of the past week finding more helpful social and supplemental activities for the kids.
Brownies - check
Cub Scouts - check
Piano lessons - check
I also have found yet another little boy Will's age in the neighborhood who homeschools. The best news is that his older sister babysits, hopefully available every afternoon so I can go running without waiting for Tim to get home at 6 before heading out the door.
Here's hoping for better luck next time.